But before you do something, observe your wife first. Is she completely decided to file the divorce? Or does she seem to be having second thoughts? If the latter is the case, then you still have the chance and power to fix your marriage.
Once you are able to determine whether she already made a decision or not, the next thing to do is to apologize for all the wrong that you have done. Admitting your mistakes will give you and your wife peace of mind, because at least both of you know what really caused the filing of divorce.
Next is to change your way of thinking. Maybe you were just thinking of yourself and not considering what your wife would feel when you do something. Remember, you are now married. You always need to share your thoughts, feelings and decisions with your wife. Make her feel that you want her in your life, that you need her to guide you at all times.
Give your wife the quality time that she deserves. Stop going out with friends after work. Instead, go home and spend time with your wife. Even if she still doesn't want to talk to you, at least you are trying your best to make her feel that you want to work things out. You can cook for her if you have the talent. Or if not, you can buy her favorite meal from the restaurant where you used to eat together and bring it at home. Those simple but sweet things could remind her why she fell in love with you in the first place.
Don't pressure your wife. Remember, she is in deep pain. It is also hard for her to even come up with divorce as the only solution to your marriage problem. Give her time to think, while you're the one who needs to be very patient.
Whatever decisions your wife will come up with, whether it is good or bad, you have to respect it. If you want to begin again and make your relationship last this time, start putting these tips into action right away.
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